Let’s talk about consent! (Again.)
What is consent?
- Consent is freely given.
- Consent means yes
- ONLY yes means yes
What isn’t consent?
- Consent is not ambiguous
- Consent is not coerced
- Consent is not implied
- Consent is not assumed
- Consent is not a given no matter how many times you or they have had sex before.
- Consent is not the absence of a no
How do I get consent?
- Ask! “Is this okay?” “May I do this?” “Can I…”
- Keep asking! “Still okay?” “Do you want to keep going?” “May I do this now?”
Remember: only a yes is yes, the absence of a no does not equal consent. No can come in many forms, if your partner is non-responsive, disassociated, pushing you away, trying to get you to do something else, drunk/high, under age or otherwise incapacitated: THAT MEANS NO.
Tell your friends.